Making Peace with Life As it Is: Peace with Money & Enough-ness with Life

Our relationship with money is one of the big pieces in trans-generational healing. The inhibitions we have around money can often indicate unresolved blockages in our self-esteem. While many may see the ability to make money as either a luck-based thing or a skill-based pursuit, much of our buried beliefs and senses energy about money roots in our family systems & dynamics: the events, the life course of those who came before us and how they intertwined with the bigger events of the world. On yet another level, it is also often a matter of us being able to hold a deep unshakable knowing that we have within us the creative centre that can sustain us well to live a deeply fulfilling life which then informs the state of our self-esteem. Which means even if we pursue diligently a course on how to invest money or build our confidence, at a deeper level we may find ourselves struggling still to embody them in our day to day life.

When someone who comes to me struggle with money, my deeper soulful question to them is often: "Do you feel like you were born with ENOUGH to live a fulfilling and joyful life?". When someone struggles with money, the common answer to this question would be a "no". This is often followed by how unfair life was to them, how hard their parents struggled for money (or were in poverty) or the perceived failure of the parents to provide a fulfilling life for them. In other words, our perception of our life and birth is that 'we were already in a struggle in our childhood' and so we will continue to struggle because survival in this world is a struggle. This perception towards life can be deepened if we were born in communities that have suffered some form of subjection to oppression and have a generationally passed down message that 'Life is hard'.

Now imagine you as a child growing up with a generationally coded energy that 'Life is hard' or anything similar to it which indicates that money is scarce for people like you, then what do you imagine will happen to your energy and your worldview as a young person looking out into this world? Secondly, also imagine if within you, you carry the energy of a story that says that either your parents failed or didn't give you enough for you to do something with your career and life. From these two places, what do you imagine your inner world would be ? Will you have an inner belief that you are deserving of a pay raise, a promotion at work or that you will be remembered when there is a money-making entrepreneurial opportunity?

Living with a chip on your shoulder like this automatically already places an invisible burden on you that you may carry for a long time in your life. This burden of survival may drive you to work hard, carry a large amount of anxiety within you, see others with contempt and move your logical thinking brain into high drive to seek for money making solutions. Some people also use affirmation from this place of survival: pushing their mind to affirm good things for themselves. It is not unusual to feel depleted in your relationships and family life if this has been your way of negotiating with your life or you may have ended up in long term mental health care.

Our life energy can soften when we view all that we have received from our parents as sufficient for us to carry on. If you are in this world functioning okay with reasonable skills then you have inherited much gifts from your ancestors who already knew how to live in this world. The intelligence, humor, good appearance, resilience, skills or anything else you like about yourself are gifts from your lineage transmitted to your via your parents. You carry all the wonderful things in you and moving to a place of gentle recognition of this simple truth can shift your energy into one that opens up to possibilities.

If reading this is stirring within you the sense of resonance then I have an invitation for you to allow a deeper opening and softening towards the fullness of your own life. Here is a simple sentence for you and see what moves in your body as you read it (try not to use the thinking brain if you can):

Every Part of You by design is already Enough, All that you received from your parents and ancestors is already enough by design to allow you to live a fulfilling life.

You can take your time with the above exercise and then move into the second one. You can visualise yourself looking into both your parents' eyes and saying to them out loud:

"Thank you for all that you have given to me. Everything is enough for me to live a fulfilling life."

Observe yourself and see what may move for you. You are free to keep returning to this exercise anytime. I wish you a journey of deep awareness.

If you feel moved to deepen your journey in trans-generational & ancestral healing through Systemic Family Constellations Group Workshops with me or In an Individual Session then you can refer to the links below for information on dates and to book an appointments. For now, I facilitate offline group sessions between Singapore, Bali & Jakarta. I also offer group online sessions occasionally.

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