Invitation to Experience Another Reality where All is Possible

I am penning this down in the middle of a week that has shaken Indonesia's heart and soul in a deeper way and a bigger way. In the middle of mass protest and unfortunate rioting incidents in more than one city, Indonesia is waking up to narratives and traumatic pain that has been buried and emerges every now and then with new textures.

This touches me deeply in ways that are so old for me but also so new as I have immersed in my own work through Systemic Family Constellations. Indonesia is my first home nation and my current home so it moves a very deep, subtle core in me as I witness mass waves and shifts these past few days.

As i write this, I am exploring deeply my love for Indonesia which mirrors the experiences of other love connections of the new. I see it emerge out of my own father's deep love for Indonesia where he was born. Like a child and especially a migrant child in search for somewhere to belong, my father embraced Indonesia with the most delicate and spacious parts of his heart as a very young boy. He learnt not only the national language but also the dialect and he was the only foreign face who played regionally for East Java's soccer team as a teenager. His friendships with his Indonesian friends from childhood continues until today.

What a gift it is , as I see it now, for me who is of South Asian origins, to be able to embrace with love a new group of people through my father's journey. We, as a family, are able to love and belong to this world in a yet bigger way than if my grandparents didn't leave Sindh, our homeland for many generations. The irony is that they left not out of will but out of forced migration because it became too dangerous to stay. In a life path such as this, the questions bubbles: do we continue to mourn our losses, be angry with the world and forces of colonisation or do we embrace the world, our path and our life with wider arms? In no way am I discounting the need to keep speaking up for justice and movement of reclamation, but out of which place do we live and speak?

In this reality that we are all used to, especially when we are living through pain and disappointment, we are reminded that there are good people and bad people, there are the oppressors and the oppressed, there are the losers and the winners. Out of loyalty to suffering of the past, that we may or may not be too conscious of, we can easily be moved to deep grief or deep rage and this can last for a long time if the pain runs deep.

Here, I invite you to consider an alternative worldview with me. In this worldview, there are no barriers of good or evil, there are no labels of oppressed or oppressors but everyone is just as they are and all behaviours and movement are just observed as explorations that mirrors to us more and more as to who we really are. More than that, here we are allowed to FLIP the narrative too: when we are willing we can trade the big burdens of blame and shame for curiosity where we ask: how do I see with clarity so my worldview and my heart expands?

When I carried along in this path, I found that I had the inner agency and power to shift deep trauma: in my case that from the family, colonisation, migration, painful gender dynamics among others. And something that I kind of knew thanks to my grandmother's spiritual teachings but barely embodied is that: when I shift, the world around me shifted in ways I didn't think was possible. One of the most significant is the return in full force of a creative depth that was once very familiar to me as a child. Through this work, there was a deep reclamation of permission to be one who lives with essence which has been a longing of what felt like a lifetime. The relationships with loved one transformed, we now had eyes to see each with far more grace than was ever possible and in that the disagreements dissolved easily. And, it is of equal joy to be able to include the work of Systemic Family Constellations as an offering for many who are drawn to this work themselves.

I will be in Singapore on the 27th & 28th September (Two Days Themed Workshop) on a Deeper Flow with Life & Personal Success and then in Bali (Cemagi) on the 18th October. If there is a movement to join me and experience this for the first time or again, then I look forward to meeting you.

Link:

https://theopenconnections.podia.com/groupworkshops